Dadvengers
#19 - Elliott Rae (Music Football Fatherhood)
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Dadvengers Podcast Episode 19 - Elliott Rae.
This weeks' guest is the founder of Music Football Fatherhood an organisation like Dadvengers with an agenda to support dads. He's an advocate for getting dads talking, plus he's an author, and dad to a young daughter. Elliot talks about growing up in London with his parents who had emigrated from the Caribbean. We hear how his how his dad was a strict parent, but he was also fair and supportive! And he also opened up about the difficult birth of his daughter and first few months of her life.
Time Codes
1:41 - Elliott tells us about his parents and growing up in London with parents who had emigrated from the Caribbean.
5:22 - "Hard work and manners were non-negotiable." - Elliott on his dad as a parent.
10:03 - "They pulled out a gun and put it to my head... that moment shaped me." - Elliott on experiencing racism and being in dangerous situations throughout his teenage years.
15:20 - Elliott on dealing with these experiences - "It was a motivation... I need to prove to people I'm going to make something of myself"
18:42 - Elliott on becoming a dad and his daughters traumatic birth. - "She was grey, not breathing - she was barely alive. and my wife was losing a lot of blood"
22:53 - "As soon as the baby is born, you're a dad.... I felt completely helpless." - Elliott on his daughter being taken to intensive care, and making the awful choice of being with his baby or his incredibly sick wife.
27:26 - After two weeks, Elliott's daughter developed a lump on her head that needed urgent medical review. - "We prayed and cried for hours..."
35:18 - Elliott on his daughter having a severe allergic reaction at just months old - and the impact of this on him. "It all came back, I was having flashbacks, I was emotional..."
38:30 - "Never did I think about getting help and talking to someone" - Elliott talks about his post birth trauma and how he didn't get help for a long time.
41:05 - How Music Football Fatherhood started as a blog, and has grown into the support network it is now!
43:10 - "Within two hours it was on the website, and the next day it was the second most viewed article" - How Elliott went viral with a blogpost about black fathers.
45:52 - Parenting Superpower.
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